Recently, two of our boys had a family
history project at school. They were supposed to interview a relative about their heritage: what countries their ancestors came from, what
cultural remnants were familiar to them, things like that. “No offense, Mom,”
one of them said to me, “but I’m going with Dad’s side because yours is too
complicated.” I wasn’t offended. He’s right, in a way.
I have a regular family, the
Vensel side. Grandparents, siblings and cousins, aunts and uncles, and all the
memories and stories that go along with growing up with extended family. I heard
the stories about first jobs and first homes, about family businesses and
family feuds. Divorces, deaths, and other tragedies. I was part of this web,
this network that existed long before I dropped down to take my place.
And yet, I was adopted so I have
no genetic ties to my family. When I was twenty years old, I met my other
family, the people who are biologically related to me. Over the years, I’ve
formed some very nice relationships, especially with my natural mother. And so
there are more stories, more details and another entire network in which I take
my late and in some ways, honorary place.
I’ve always been interested in
ancestry, beginning, obviously, with my desire to know my biological roots. I
like stories about people finding long-lost relatives, twins reuniting, researchers
discovering a connection to someone of historical significance. Yet when it
comes to matters of my own ancestry, I find I’m probably more interested in my
first family’s history, given that it bears more relevance to the family unit
in which I began my life. When I think about discovering ancestors, I think
about it in terms of my grandparents and what I knew of them, or my parents and
what they know of those who came before. I know that the ancestry of the
biological side probably has much more to do with me, and yet, I can’t help
where my interests lie.
For Christmas, my family gave
me a kit to test my DNA. Lots of companies are doing this now. You
give them a small amount of saliva; they’ll give you a percentage breakdown of
where your ancestors originated. This, for some reason, really interested me.
When asked about countries of origin, I always say “Germany and Poland” because
that’s what I know for sure. It always seemed like enough. As I waited for the
results, however, I was hoping for much more. I wanted one wildcard, something
unexpected, maybe a smidge of Asian or African, maybe a dash of Native
American. I didn’t care what, just something I didn’t know. I have to say, when
the results came, I had an unexpected little wave of emotion. I felt very
possessive of that little report and in a strange way, proud. The list of
percentages seemed like something much more concrete than the trees of either
of my families. It seemed like something uniquely particular to me (which of
course it was), and something unrelated to anyone else (which of course it wasn’t).
The report, an “ethnicity
estimate,” gives a breakdown of percentages and a handy map to show you the
areas identified in the report. What mine said:
I am 100% European. I’m 39%
Eastern European, a section on the map highlighted as most of Poland and
Ukraine. This is no surprise. My natural mother’s father had a Polish name.
Also, I’m 23% Western European. This is Germany and France, basically. Two natural
grandparents had very German names, so this is also expected. And next, my
wildcard, the unexpected: 23% Scandinavian. I love this! The map shows this to
mean Norway (home of Per Petterson, one of my favorite writers!) and Sweden
(home of Bergman, one of my favorite filmmakers!). I think this is where I
started feeling that rush of individuality. Next, 10% Great Britain (London,
one of my favorite cities!). To finish, 3% Finland/Northwest Russia, 2%
Italy/Greece.
What can I say? I love my results
and knowing that I’m the only person in the world with these results. I suppose
others may feel the same way, but if you have full-siblings, I’d wager their
results would be pretty similar. And although I didn’t get anything terribly
shocking or exotic, it still gives me one more piece to the puzzle of where I
began, and it feels completely scientific and objective and not subject to the
whims of anyone else. And it brings a certain clarity because of that. It can
be a very simple question, this “Where did you come from?” The greater
question, I think, has more to do with where you’ll go from here.